What psychological facts can I use to be a more likable person?

Steve Anthony
2 min readJan 10, 2021

In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 adjectives based on their perceived significance to likeability.

The top-rated adjectives had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top adjectives were sincerity, transparency, and capacity for understanding (another person).

Here are 4 tips likable people engage in that make them very likable:

#1. They ask above-average questions.

Learn to become a better questioner! Something as simple as a clarification question shows that you’re listening and that you care about what the other person is saying.

#2. Likable people are genuine.

Being genuine and honest is significant to being likable. No one likes someone who’s fake. Everyone will gravitate toward someone who is genuine because they know they can trust them.

#3. Don’t Pass Judgment if you want to be likable.

Being open-minded makes you approachable and interesting. No one likes someone who constantly disagrees or judges them for different opinions.

#4. Don’t constantly share problems. Get a therapist instead.

Don’t overshare or vent about work too much. It’s OK to talk about personal problems to friends, but not so much you become labeled as a complainer or a downer.

We hope this helps!

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Steve Anthony

I’m an adventurous coffee drinker. I’m also the founder of https://www.loopward.com/, a source to help people improve their people skills. Reach out!