Communicating with women the right way. Signals she’s into you and not into you so you stop guessing.

These are the easiest ways to start a conversation with a woman.

First, you should be able to feel or vibe a mutual interest before you make a move.

Look for a signal to walk over. It’s usually a smile or long eye contact.

Once you walk over (with confidence) Break the ice with small talk. Trust us when we say, never underestimate the influence of small talk.

If you don’t know how to small talk, you can learn in a few minutes. Trust that small talk plays a vital role in establishing relationships — whether that relationship happens to be in a social setting or in a professional one.

This is your chance to learn about the person you’re talking to. Be excited, and don’t put pressure on yourself to be perfect. Simply have fun!

An example of small talk when you first meet.

Joe: “Hey, I’m Joe. How’s your night going?”

Woman: It’s going great and yours?

Joe: Great! I’m out with friends and I’m actually really enjoying the music the DJ is playing. What brings you out tonight?

Woman: Enjoying the night with friends too! Needed a night out. Haven’t been out for a drink in a while.

Joe: Me too! I was finally able to make time to meet up with friends since I’ve been busy with work. I’m glad I came out tonight, it’s a fun bar!

Woman: I’m glad you came out too!

OK, so, this is a very basic small talk conversation you might be able to have. Also, keep in mind every conversation can be different depending on the social setting you’re in.

As the conversation continues …. Keep in mind to Make HER the focal point of the conversation by being curious and interested!

When you lead with curiosity and ask thoughtful questions that allows someone to “have the floor”, you build a connection (that leads to trust). As you ask questions, you’ll likely find places where you have commonalities and “shared narratives”, which are quick ways to building momentum with the other person.

Now, start picking up the speed and begin to discover meaningful things about her.

Some questions you can use (depending on the situation).

• Tell me more about your friends you’re with?
• What do you recommend for fun activities this weekend?
• Working on anything exciting lately outside of work?
• What are your weekend plans?

Allow the other person to take center stage and level up your questions.

Signals she’s into you.

• Touching you. A brush of the arm, or bump with an elbow.
• She’s asking personal questions.
• She’s laughing at your jokes (even though they suck).
• Introduces you to a friend.

Signals she’s not into you.

• Avoids eye contact and is looking around when you’re talking.
• She doesn’t ask much about you and doesn’t extend the conversation.
• Doesn’t introduce you to a friend she’s with.
• Comes up with excuses to leave the conversion.

Things you need to keep in mind.

• Don’t look at her like a piece of meat you’re about to devour.
• Treat her with respect.
• If she doesn’t want to talk to you, move on and pick your ego up.

Once you know the signals and above tips, you won’t ever have to guess again.

We hope this helps!

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